Tip #90: The One Thing To Tell Yourself When You Feel You Can’t Get Through It

Tip #90: In moments of doubt, repeat this mantra: you can, you will, you must.

The why: It’s often said that there are many times in anyone’s life, particularly for those who have anxiety, where we feel like giving up.

I would dispute this claim.

I don’t think we want to give up, I think it’s that we feel we don’t have the energy to continue.

It’s not that you want to just give in to the negative thoughts and feelings that overwhelm you, it’s not that you want to be immobilised by fear, it’s not that you want to stop fighting and just let it overcome you.

It’s that sometimes we are running on empty. We’re tired of constantly engaging in what feels like a losing battle.

Picture this scenario:

You’re climbing a mountain, almost at the top, you can see the end. You can almost taste how close you are to the finish line. Wind is blowing you backwards with all its might, the rocks under your feet keep slipping out from beneath you, but you’re determined to continue.

Then suddenly your legs turn to jelly, you’re out of breath, but your mind is willing you, begging you to just go that little bit further. You can see the flag up ahead, but your body is keeping you lying prone on the cold, hard ground. You feel you can’t get up. Gravity has wrapped around your form and is tying you down in chains. You feel like you’re done.

This for me is how I feel on a bad day, when everything in my brain is screaming at me to get up. To do this. To continue. But I just feel too exhausted to go on.

So I imagine myself on that lonely mountainside, with the goal in sight, and I say to myself:

“I can, I will, I must.”

If ever you feel this way, repeat these words. Repeat them until they feel burned into your consciousness to the point where as soon as you feel like giving up, they immediately spring to mind.

You can do this, you will do this, you must do this.

Now obviously there are occasions where resting is the key, with a tonne of ice cream and even more self-care – but there are times when you have to push through.

You have a deadline to meet?

I can, I will, I must.

You have to be strong to sort out a family issue?

I can, I will, I must.

You have to nail this presentation?

I can, I will, I must.

You have to finish a 20″ pizza?

I can, I will, I must.

I have every faith that you can do this, and I promise you, you will get through it.

Can. Will. Must.

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