Tip #85: Speak to yourself in the same way that you would speak to a friend.
The why: When you have anxiety, your thoughts tend to become rather negative.
Everything is viewed through a dark grey lens.
Everything you do is up for criticism, like you’re constantly stuck in the audition phase of a TV talent show and can’t do anything right.
We judge ourselves so harshly.
This furthers the cycle of negativity within our minds. Constantly thinking doubtful thoughts about your appearance, your talents, what you’re doing in life, your future, will undoubtedly lead you down the road to unhappiness.
How can you be okay when you are surrounded by a constant orchestra of thoughts telling you how wrong you are?
The mind is an incredibly powerful thing, with the power to create great joy, as well as to destroy it.
So, next time you catch yourself saying some very bad things about you, instead, talk to yourself as you would a friend.
If a friend made a mistake, what would you say to them?
Would you tell them that they were a failure? That they should give up? That they are the worst person to ever walk the earth?
No, of course not.
So neither should you talk to yourself in that way.
Because whether you like it or not, you’re stuck with you for the rest of your life, so you may as well try to get along.
So, the next time you feel like beating yourself up about something that didn’t quite go to plan, or you find yourself bitching about yourself behind your back (if that’s even possible), imagine what you would say to someone you loved, what advice you’d give them, all the positive things about them, and say that to you instead.
Be kind to yourself, and watch the positivity grow and flourish in your world.