Tip #64: Find people to look up to.
The why: When you have anxiety, it can sometimes feel as though you’re never going to come out the other side. Like it’s constantly going to hold you back.
I can tell you now, it won’t.
But don’t take my word for it, write a list of role models.
These can be amazing, extraordinary people who have battled with mental health and overcome it, or went on to lead successful lives regardless.
Looking at those who have been through your struggles, and are doing great despite their obstacles, serves as a constant reminder that things can and do get better.
I’ve compiled a list of a few of my role models to demonstrate the power of looking up.
Number One – Adele
Adele recently opened up about her anxiety about performing on stage. She stated that occasionally it was so bad that she experienced panic attacks.
It’s hard to believe that such an amazing and loved performer, who has sold out arenas and sold millions of albums could be afraid to sing on stage, but it’s true.
You know the most amazing thing about her though? She still gets up there and absolutely nails it night after night. She never let her fears stop her.
Adele is number one on my list because it shows that no matter how bad your anxiety you can still become a star, so long as you keep doing the scary thing and keep overcoming your fears.
Number Two – Buddha
The guy who became the leader of a religion that promotes inner peace suffered from anxiety?
Yes. In fact, it was his struggles with his own mental health that led him to become Buddha.
He was originally a prince named Siddhartha Gautama, who’s father had kept him ignorant and away from the deprivation and poverty in their kingdom. One day, he left the gates of the palace, and finally had interaction with the suffering in the world. This led him into a pit of despair, so he began to seek out ways to find inner peace and harmony.
This led him to meditate under the Bodhi tree for 49 days straight, where he reached a state of nirvana. He believed that the key to happiness is letting go of ties to emotions, rather just letting them come, acknowledging their transience, and accepting them.
Number Three – This community
Seeing the way different people I have interacted with so far on this journey have dealt with their own anxiety, probably inspires me the most. Seeing their dedication to dealing with and overcoming their disorder, whilst still taking the time to share and speak up about their experiences, keeps me going forward.
Letting others inspire you lets you know that you’re not alone in this, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Together, we can beat anxiety.