Tip #58: Begin a jar of all your happy memories.
The why: When you have anxiety, it is sometimes very hard to see the good in the world.
When things become so bad, it is almost hard to remember a time when things were happy.
But, you can suffer from anxiety and still have happy moments. And these moments, these wonderful, brilliant, sparkling moments of joy amongst what seems to be a blanket of darkness, are worth capturing.
Whenever you have a moment like this, write it down on a scrap of paper and pop it in your Memory Jar (a little like the pensive in Harry Potter, but probably from Ikea, and not literally magical).
This is a great tactic for the dark days for four reasons.
Firstly, when things get overwhelming, you can go to your Memory Jar and see that
despite how you’re feeling, you can still have a wonderful life, there are always good moments, no matter how small.
Secondly, the power of memory is, in fact, a little like magic. When you’re remembering things, you also remember how you felt in that moment. So, by writing down happy memories, when you re-read them you will remember how happy you felt in that moment, and feel an immediate mood boost!
Thirdly, on your darkest days, looking back and seeing all the great things you have done and all the people you’ve spent time with motivates you to keep going, and to keep doing those things.
Fourthly, it’s just a really nice thing to have. In ten years time, you can open it and remember all the cool, crazy, fun things you did when you were younger. All the people and places you may otherwise forget, locked away somewhere slightly more reliable than your mind.