“Wow, who is this mysterious woman giving me life advice via the internet?” You may be asking yourself.
Of course, you may not be asking yourself that, you may be asking yourself a myriad of far more important questions such as “what is my purpose?”, “does Marmite actually taste nice?”, “why did I walk into this room?”.
But, just in case you were curious, I thought it was about time to answer a few ‘getting to know you’ questions.
1. What’s your philosophy in life?
Reality is what you make of it, so make it a nice one, for yourself and for others.
2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?
I would say my anxiety and depression, but seeing the impact I’ve been able to have on the lives of others through talking about it gives it meaning, even if it can be burdensome.
So, I would have to say my lack of self-discipline (particularly when it comes to the consumption of chocolate or the watching of Netflix).
3. Are you religious or spiritual?
I am both religious and spiritual.
4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
I am certainly an introvert, I need a lot of time to recharge and be alone with my thoughts (though occasionally that is terrifying).
However, I do genuinely love people, and sometimes feel the social butterfly coming out of her cocoon inside my mind.
5. Which parent are you closer to and why?
I love both my parents incredibly deeply, but most likely my mother because we have lived together for the past 14 years.
She’s seen me at both my very best, and my very worst.
6. What was the best phase in your life?
Oh, honestly I believe I have not yet entered it. Most likely the time I am currently in, in terms of my personal development journey.
However, I believe no time is the best or necessarily the worst. Times are a mixture of both good and bad simultaneously, so really they are just that; times. And like all things temporal, they pass.
I think my attitudes towards my situations have improved, even if the situations aren’t always happy.
7. What was the worst phase in your life?
In truth, there have been a few.
However, the one that stands out particularly to me is my time at the first university I attended before I dropped out. I was so severely depressed I barely left the building I was in for six months. Barely showered. Barely spoke to anyone. I would sleep all day and sit for hours until the sun rose listening to music, imaging I was anywhere but where I was. I was completely numb.
Anyway enough of that. I must say though that all the worst phases of my life have always sent me on the right track, and in hindsight, I accept them, and am in fact grateful for them as they led me to where I am now.
You can’t regret (almost) anything in life if you love where and who you are now.
8. What makes you feel accomplished?
More than anything, knowing I have helped or inspired someone.
9. What’s your favourite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much?
UP. This film honestly changed my life and I cry all the way through.
I remember one particularly bad night watching it when I was in my deepest depression, and it gave me the strength I needed to decide to leave university and get myself better.
The whole idea of life itself being an adventure, and being brave enough to take risks gave me the courage I needed when I felt I had none.
10. What is a relationship deal breaker for you?
Emotional unavailability or closedness.
11. Are you more into looks or brains?
Brains – as they say (whoever they are) looks fade.
12. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner?
My mother is a witch (in a good way). She always ends up being right about people, and so if she doesn’t like someone, in future I’ll listen.
15. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?
I am blessed to have two people I consider my best friends in the entire universe.
One of whom I have literally been in near constant conversation with for the past two years; I’m pretty sure we’ve covered 40% of all the topics there are to speak about (which given the largeness of the universe is quite a lot).
Both have helped me through my darkest of days, and knowing they are just a phone call away gives me more peace that you can imagine.
16. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
I pretend like I want to be left alone, but really all I want is a cuddle and some tea and company.
17. What’s an ideal weekend for you?
Books. Blogging. Campaigning. Netflix. Time with friends. Long baths. Not necessarily in that order.
18. Do you judge a book by its cover?
Not anymore. I have learnt the hard way that judging a book by its cover is a foolish mistake to make.
19. Are you confrontational?
Only when defending my beliefs, debating, or standing up for the people I love.
Otherwise, I avoid it like the plague.
20. Did you ever write a journal?
I write in my journal every morning, and in a separate ‘ideas’ journal every evening.
It’s good to keep track of your days, or else in the future so many of those small lovely moments will be forgotten.
21. What are you most thankful for?
So many things. But most likely life itself. Being alive comes with all the possibility and potentiality.
A chance to change. Grow. Do some good in this world.
22. Do you believe in second chances?
Yes. Depends for who though. Some people shouldn’t be let back through the door to your life.
23. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?
I believe people think that I am unfriendly or intimidating (mainly due to my bitchy resting face and height).
In truth, I am a massive puppy.
I would probably love to speak to them, but I am just too painfully shy and anxious.
24. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?
Give me all the historical arcitecture and we’re good. Oh, also some beautiful natural things. Oh, and some stars. Lots of stars.
25. What’s on your bucket list this year?
To perform my spoken word live to an audience of mainly strangers.
26. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?
Speaking to 10,000 people about the importance of political engagement. Nearly peed myself.
27. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?
For every child to have an education up to the age of 16. A removal of every weapon on earth. Perfect health until I’m 100.
28. What’s your biggest regret in life?
Not remaining friends with someone very important to me.
29. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?
Three things (on a good day): the adorableness of puppies, the meaning of life, and whether the universe began in a black hole.
30. What’s your favourite colour?
Navy blue or burgundy.
These questions came from a post – http://thoughtcatalog.com/rania-naim/2016/02/40-deep-questions-to-ask-if-you-really-want-to-get-to-know-someone/ – on Thought Catalog which has a lot of great stuff to check out.